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Plaid
 RE: help me write a letter to my dad
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I imagine you would just update anywhere you know has/needs your address with the new one? If you're registered to anything that is government related (voting, student loans? Do any official channels handle that over there) then they require you to update your address whenever you move anyway.

The government here is alarming good at location stalking you... As soon as you move you get a deluge of letters saying something to the effect of it looks like you moved? Plz return this letter to tell us your new address for voting.

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04-21-2016, 02:56 PM
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ICan'tGiveCredit
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you send donald trump a letter saying you live there now and watch him grow in anger as he processes all these ****ing letters like "i didn't sign up for this" and then he abdicates, allowing bernie sanders to reign in power

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04-21-2016, 03:04 PM
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SleepingOrange
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I assume that you are an American, and as such the process for moving is: within 30 days of moving to a new address, whether it's in the same state or a different one, you go to the DMV in your new area and fill out a change of address form. I do not believe that it costs any money, or at least it did not in my area the last few times I've had to do it, and then they send you an amendment to your license or ID if you have one, and if you do not have one they simply update your records.

the government is actually one of the easiest things to update in terms of your new address. The real hassle is contacting your job ann your bank and your friends and every other person and institution that needs to know where you live. In my state, you can even fill out the necessary forms ahead of time by getting them from the website and bringing them in, which makes the actual DMV trip about five minutes long if you don't go on a busy day. There's no kind of time limit on most of the rest of this stuff, so it can really just happen as the individual people that need to be updated occur to you.

That's something about adulthood and all the big intimidating things about it that has really come to surprise me the longer I've spent in it: most things really are much simpler than you think they're going to be. I mean, some real chumps manage to live day-to-day without too much hassle so it can't be all that hard.
04-21-2016, 04:11 PM
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a52
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(04-21-2016, 04:11 PM)SleepingOrange Wrote: I mean, some real chumps manage to live day-to-day without too much hassle so it can't be all that hard.

what, like you? ahahahhahahahah HappymelonMelonspa
04-21-2016, 04:25 PM
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Jacquerel
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I don't know if we've progressed past writing letters but could I suggest:

Quote:Dear Mr Kitet's Dad;

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04-21-2016, 05:09 PM
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Wheat
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getting closer. no is two letters and the title says "a letter."

I'd recommend R. it's got a nice blend of curve and straightline. Plus if you made it red your dad might read into it that you've gone off to join team rocket to capture that pickachu.

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04-21-2016, 06:25 PM
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KittenEater
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real quick i just want to add, about the eventual moving-out plan: i'm not fully trained to drive yet, and driving makes me super nervous. it'd be idea if someone else would drive me, but aside from a moving company, nobody would want to drive me to new mexico and then have to get themselves back home

i guess there's another option where i just pack a lot of stuff on a plane trip, and possibly ship other things i want to keep to my destination beforehand?
04-21-2016, 10:04 PM
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Loather
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shrugg, i've driven across states before so i wouldn't mind doing it if i had the resources. like.. honestly i'd be going out of state yearly if i had the money to. i'm pretty sure there's plenty of people here that would be willing to help.

flying would actually be the cheaper and better option considering the distance? it should probably be your first choice

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04-21-2016, 11:46 PM
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Wheat
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bus might be cheaper depending on how little you pack

if I had my own truck I'd just offer to do it that way. maybe in the future, if I have my own truck, but I have no idea when or if that will happen. Or if I were to have a lot of off time I might be able to just rent a rental van/truck. I mean I already drive 10 hr stretches at a time it wouldn't be much of a hassle to me other than working out when to do it.

you could also use a moving company, since they do one-ways all the time but that might be pricier

e: there's always the option of whoever you're moving in with renting their thing and driving to you, then the return trip would be with you and your stuff,

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04-22-2016, 12:15 AM
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KittenEater
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been thinking over the past few days, it'd probably be better if I got out of here even sooner than I want/am prepared to

not because he's acting worse towards me, directly, but because he's still really intent on setting up a weed growing operation in our house

hilariously, a few days ago, he realized that weed seeds are NOT free, and are very expensive?? i was hoping that would deter him but it's not, because i keep seeing him browsing growing lamps and junk online

anyway, i feel like, no matter how careful he is, there's an impending storm coming and i need to get out of here. if he gets caught, i'm probably going to be punished too, because i'm technically an "adult" and so i can't really be considered an innocent bystander in this

edit: updated first post with a "getting out of here" checklist
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04-26-2016, 02:36 AM
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KittenEater
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last night i had some dreams that were sort of about packing up and moving out, but they also involved people who were shrunk down and in a movie or something

anyway

if i write a letter to him when i leave, it's going to have to involve this stupid weed-growing thing and how it affects me
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Quote:"hey dad, you probably noticed I'm not here anymore. That's because I left! Because you are so enamored with government conspiracies and "rebellion" that you decided that doing illegal things in our house, for your own fun and for occasional profit, is worth more than my safety."
04-26-2016, 09:55 PM
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Loather
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your dad's kind of a monumental dumbass please get out of there soon

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04-27-2016, 01:15 AM
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Reyweld
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Leave behind steamy Pokemon fanfiction.

Like the R stuff.

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04-27-2016, 01:23 AM
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a52
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Just link him Jimmy Buffest and leave.
04-27-2016, 01:40 AM
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Papers
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funny idea but actually don't, because the JB thread is frighteningly near to this one

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04-27-2016, 02:43 AM
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Plaid
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Idk if he's likely to cause a huge scene if you tell him you're outtie, but either way its probably easier to just leave quietly and leave a note saying that you're leaving so don't report me missing, sort of thing. OH and on that note i feel like he's the sort to call and plead at you to come back? If so changing your sim card is probably a good idea.

Anyway good luck, and let us know if you need any help paying for tickets or shipping out of there okay

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04-27-2016, 02:46 AM
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KittenEater
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thanks for the support, everyone.

tbh it's starting to feel a little scary... thinking about leaving this soon, without dads help. it'd be less scary if i knew people nearby who would help me... so far i just have my neighbor and my irl friend, and they both are kinda trapped in a "they're family and they love you" mindset. they could help with some things, but they wouldn't get me out of town.

idk i guess... i feel like doing anything other than letting dad know i want to leave and having him help me get out would be bad, but there's no way he'll let me move out, to live with an online friend, before i've even landed a first job. staying here is a mistake, too, though.

anyway, note to self: find and destroy note i gave dad months ago with gens number on it
04-27-2016, 03:37 AM
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Wheat
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if it makes you worry any less about the immediate future, I don't think you'd be prosecuted for your dad growing and trying to distribute weed since it's not actually benefiting you in any way. if it came to them getting caught, you could easily testify against them.

that's not saying they have your safety in mind, since preventing you from seeing a mental care provider for your whole life is pretty egregious. also, it's still irresponsible that they'd engage in that sort of chancy behavior knowing the consequences. (also, it's stupid, because recreational marijuana might be passed in CA soon so the market would bottom out before they got any real return)

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04-27-2016, 06:29 AM
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KittenEater
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i mean, i'm not totally sure what he'd use the weed profits on besides paying rent/medical bills and such. stuff that is still his responsibility, and does benefit me since i am living with him and benefit from having the bills being paid for.

his other money-making option is going back to work for a few years until he hits the actual retirement age (he retired early) but he's old and his skills are outdated so... sighs
04-27-2016, 07:14 AM
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Kitet - Today at 4:15 PM
@Agenarchi hey so i approached my dad about the three giveaways to someone growing weed in their house and dad had solutions to all three
1. there's apparently some fan+filter things that cost over a hundred bucks but can filter the smell out
2. he's trying to buy special LED lamps that don't take a lot of power so he can power them with solar energy
3. because those lamps are LED they don't produce a lot of heat
and he knows the risks he's running, he knows if he gets caught it'll be bad and it'll reduce the value of the house and several other things, he does not care.
also now that i've asked these questions i think he thinks i'm in vague support of his plan, he was like "yeah keep asking me stuff, i might have missed something"
04-27-2016, 11:20 PM
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ICan'tGiveCredit
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wait wait wait, one more

"Dear Kitet's dad,

sm0ke w33d erryday

With Loveather, Kitet"

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04-28-2016, 01:16 AM
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Loather
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how dare you call me a weed-doer
04-28-2016, 03:29 AM
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no i'm calling kitet a weed-doer. but if the weed fits, take it, and put it in your shoe

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04-28-2016, 08:58 PM
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KittenEater
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remembered some more stuff i could add to the list in the first post, if i can find a way to summarize them better

-when i first moved in with him at the age of 11(?) and started going to public school, i got picked on really hard, a lot, and it didn't stop for years because i was too sensitive. his advice for me was to stop being sensitive, literally "stop being a target"
-the first couple friends i made were special ed kids. i wasn't a special ed kid myself, they were just the only people i'd met who were nice to me. i hadn't met any special ed kids before so i didn't have any reference for what was different about them. so, while me and dad were having breakfast at a denny's, one of them recognized me on their way out and said hi. dad realized i'd made friends with a special ed kid, and took it upon himself to explain what down's syndrome was, and that i shouldn't make friends with people who have it, and that i should be making friends with "normal" kids.
-this kinda led into me being super super ableist and afraid of special ed kids for years
-more recently, within the last year, i went to lunch with dad and he recalled how i made one of his friends mad when we took him and his wife to dinner once. apparently, this friend had a son who had pretty bad brain damage (this is my dads words). i didn't know this, and i had said something about special ed kids or something, and our friend told me that what i was saying was offensive. i apparently didn't get the hint, and kept going on, and it made him lose his calm attitude and more angrily say "STOP. It's OFFENSIVE, you're OFFENDING me." to get me to stop with whatever I was saying. dad concluded this recollection of what happened with "It's really weird, I'd never seen him act like that before. He's always pretty calm."

YEAH??????????
04-29-2016, 08:24 PM
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KittenEater
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uhhh before i forget
one of the things in my "getting out of here" checklist ought to be "change the bank i'm with" because, uh, the one i've got right now seems to be a California-Only bank? i mean i could probably still use it outside of california but i couldn't go to any physical locations, which bothers me a lot.

idk what the process for that is but if i need to put all my money into paypal and then from there into a new bank account then so be it. there's probably a more elegant solution to it though.
05-05-2016, 05:35 AM
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