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I didn't do too good in a math test and this makes me peeved but mostly really anxious and sad, because I know no matter how much I study i'll still make mistakes, because I'm forgetful and I have my head in the clouds too much. I don't want to look at my report card, it terrifies me. But I know my mom will and that terrifies me even more.

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11-06-2017, 07:16 AM
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Meds aren't working like they're supposed to and I'm feeling worse.

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11-11-2017, 06:56 PM
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I have a huge hole in my tooth that i can't afford to fix so i've been trying to ignore it, but its getting worse... Mum has offered to pay but also has been talking about her own financial woes bc of already subsidising our rent and my sister's medical stuff (have i mentioned in here that my sister has cancer? because yeah)

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11-12-2017, 07:40 AM
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11-12-2017, 05:44 PM
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Hey Plaid, financial problems, specially when your health is on the line, are the worst. I'm very sorry to hear that :C

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11-15-2017, 09:28 PM
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11-23-2017, 06:46 PM
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I feel like I want to leave my job. I'm not really happy, and this feels like a dead end job. But, can I really afford to pursue my *dream job*? Can anyone, really? Like, it just constantly depresses me that there are people who settle for their current job that they hate because they have to support their family somehow. Is there even a job that I will like, or will I become tired of every job quickly simply because there's work involved?

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It's hard to say, really. Right now, I've landed in a place where I could very well support myself (in a kind of bare-bones lifestyle) for the rest of my life if everything goes well. I'm doing what I like (drawing, animating). However, this could also be an opportunity for me to jump somewhere else after I get enough experience here (because i'm animating very boring things and I want to do more creative stuff). So, in my case, no, I don't want to settle for what I have even if this is technically not a dead end job.

It all depends on what you want from life, i think. Sure, there are "dream jobs" like being your own boss, working on what you like to do. But for some people, being comfortable enough and having enough money to support a family or even just hanging out with friends is more than enough. Some others are forced to do this even if they don't want to though, like you mentioned.

I think as long as you have an interest in something that can be profitable, then you definitely can have a dream job. Because as cliché as it sounds, if you enjoy what you're doing (and I mean really enjoy, the kind of enjoyment that makes you not want to stop doing what you're doing), then it's not a job anymore.

Maybe you're becoming tired of every job quickly because you don't have an end goal, which makes the whole endeavor seem pointless.

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11-29-2017, 07:55 PM
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I can say some people are perfectly happy to live to work, and some people are perfectly happy to work to live. Of course, not everyone is happy. There is a great deal to be said for sticking with an unpleasant state of affairs for a higher cause, yes, but evaluating whether it costs more to stay or to go can be very tough: We pay a price for anything we do, but we also pay a price for anything we don’t do.

Either way, making these kinds of calls for yourself is a big part of what maturity—of having your act together—is. It’s hard not knowing what you’re about, and it’s hard knowing what you’re about but getting stopped every step of the way.

I’ve been pondering (and reading up) on such things quite a bit over the past few years myself because I’ve been stuck in my personal hell. In material terms it would seem to many people that it’s a very nice situation, with a broad knowledge of things and a degree in a hot field, but that’s a part and parcel of the problem. It is costing me very little to stay, but it is also profiting me nothing, and knowing that the true cost is anything else I could have been doing, it’s like I’ve been paying for it with my soul. But ah, this is not about me and my long history of (in retrospect) attention-seeking behavior (that manifested in ways few people would interpret as such).

Perhaps to spin this more reassuringly: lots of people don’t have this figured out, neither on a practical level nor on a rational one. If they do, it’s usually not at a young age; Hunter S. Thompson seems to be the notable exception.

Also one of the countless things I wish I knew 10–15 years ago, but was never told (many people seem to need the opposite lesson at those ages anyhow, plus who knows whether I’d act on it?): if you are young, or just really unestablished and have nothing, it is in some ways safer to take more risks if the rewards are worth it; hitting rock bottom and bouncing back is no big deal at that stage. This is a door less open to people with mouths to feed, less health, (hopefully) higher pay commensurate with more experience and knowledge, and/or retirement savings to lose, and people are far less sympathetic—fair or not, and I’d say not—if you’re taking the risks at age 3x deemed more of a 2x-year-old’s game just because you weren’t back then.

Hope that helps, but then again I’m still nobody and also not who I thought I was in the first place so what do I really know eh.

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11-30-2017, 04:46 AM
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Missed a phone interview today because I forgot to account for timezones.

Currently filled with a mixture of embarrassment shame and self-loathing for such a stupid fuckup.

Only recourse now is to find a hornet's nest and shove my head in it.
11-30-2017, 05:14 PM
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(11-30-2017, 05:14 PM)Granolaman Wrote: Missed a phone interview today because I forgot to account for timezones.

Currently filled with a mixture of embarrassment shame and self-loathing for such a stupid fuckup.

Only recourse now is to find a hornet's nest and shove my head in it.

That's okay, we all forget things sometimes, there are so many things to keep track of and sometimes we can't handle them all.
I completely forgot about an appointment I had with my therapist (which was going to be for free) and I felt really awful about it. But after curling up in a ball and crying I decided to call her up, apologize and promise it won't happen again. So my point is, yeah, take your time to feel bad about it, but remember it's not the end of the world after that!

(11-30-2017, 04:46 AM)BRPXQZME Wrote: Hope that helps, but then again I’m still nobody and also not who I thought I was in the first place so what do I really know eh.

Same.

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11-30-2017, 06:49 PM
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I hate pretending to be offline cus it makes me feel like i already lost, but there's this one person who is heckin me up n' im not in the mood to deal with that

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12-01-2017, 11:06 PM
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Im so glad that discord has the "invisible" option but im so mad bout the fact that i gotta use it

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12-01-2017, 11:08 PM
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Life is fucking unfair and I hate it. I'm tired.

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12-15-2017, 10:05 PM
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12-16-2017, 08:25 AM
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The friend I mentioned who is in very serious legal trouble was about to have his last trial during these months but it was pushed until MAY, six fucking months, just because they feel like it.

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12-25-2017, 05:07 AM
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that suck infared!! i'm sorry about that hopefully it get resolves soon though

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i really don't want to exist right now
my grades are dropping and i've been cramming on all my projects i haven't finished. what's worse to me is that i literally can't work on my PE project because a.) computer's dumb b.) it's a group work c.) i'm the only one who can do it d.) why does no one else in our group have a computer [or is willing to work with me!!!]
i've always been terrified about losing my scholarship and now that i'm almost senior high i can't afforad to risk anything and i hate that i have a scholarship as thankful as i am for it because trying is getting so tiring. i don't want to try and i want this to end it's making life so much less fun
i really wish i didn't feel so numb 24/7 either, i can't even stress myself out enough to do it and as much as i hate stress i hate feeling numb so so so much and i can't even let it out physically
my mom's been putting off getting me a therapist and i hate it because i know how bad my depression's[???] been affecting my will and ability to do schoolwork. she says i can get out of it on my own but to be honest it's been too long and i'd rather get some help sooner rather than later. i don't want this to be a thing i have to look forward to when i'm 18

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That rough. Don’t let the bozos grind you down.

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And from the sound of it, you’re dealing with a fleet of clown cars. In truth, sounds like somewhere I was at when I was in high school (one key difference—didn’t care for the therapy. I was forced into it, and that makes everything worse).

I would say, definitely don’t try to do everything on your own. There are some things—big and important ones—that ultimately require you to take complete personal responsibility for things to change; these things don’t actually take that much effort or time, because the payoffs are tremendous anyway. And a lot of people (who may or may not be well adjusted themselves) can see only that in others. They can’t see whatever it is that torments you. They may not even be trusting you with the chance to fulfill said responsibilities. Frankly, a lot of older people honestly don’t realize/remember what a typical workload is like in school today (at least in America). That’s where they’re at; it’s pure bozo-ism, try to let it slide off because they can’t tell you to think things you need to have thought of yourself.

But contrary to my own statement, I’ll tell you what to think, and you can decide whether you agree. How’s that?

In the past month, I read a couple of really good books.

One is Getting Things Done by Dave Allen. If I had known the techniques in it, I think my schoolwork would have gone a lot more smoothly. Thing is, the first edition came out when I was in 8th grade and was mostly geared towards business; all the systems the schools tried to get me to use didn’t work the same way (color code your classes, they said, write it in your calendar, they said). Anyway, the crux of it is making sure you write down all the stuff you’re supposed to do and what you’re supposed to do about it; the rest is sorting it out, making sure you know where all of it is and what to do about it when it needs to be done. Ultimately, that kind of system also helps you understand what you’re okay with not doing, because it just won’t be at the back of your mind. The is one of the best I’ve ever read; but you can get the gist of it online since you’re probably strapped for time and cash (but who isn’t?).

The other one is Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss. It is a much lighter read, the condensed version is this 1hr Google Talk with the author. While it’s technically about negotiation, the truth is that if we don’t really know how to negotiate, we don’t form equitable, thought-out agreements. Then we don’t understand why we got screwed so bad, or why someone who seemed so ready to help us out the other day is suddenly very angry with us (it’s hardly an excuse, but they might be somewhat justified!).

Also in the past couple of years, I came across something that more and more self-help authors are including in their books these days. The exercise boils down to something like this: pick a realistic but best-possible life situation you can imagine, somewhere from 6 months to 5 years out (most people who aren’t 20 yet should rather try out the lower end of that), and start putting together a step-by-step plan for how you get there in that timeframe. Especially important to hash out is the first step. The first step will probably be something physical, very easy to do, and that’s the key, because you know it’s easy so you’ll probably do it.

The reason I’m talking about productivity here is that most people are starved for wins. Racking up real achievements, and framing them in a way that makes them feel like real achievements, is how you get those wins. It is not a “cure” for depression per se (if that is what it is). But you might find it necessary to work your way towards the help you need. I found that this alone is good enough for me.

And never forget: some bozos promise they’ll just go away if you do nothing. They haven’t already. They won’t.

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01-09-2018, 11:17 PM
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Hmmmmm! Turns out if I experience unpleasant smells+noises+tactile senses simultaneously I have an anxiety attack and want to claw my arm off!
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(02-10-2018, 10:44 AM)Schazer Wrote: Hmmmmm! Turns out if I experience unpleasant smells+noises+tactile senses simultaneously I have an anxiety attack and want to claw my arm off!

:/ Wonderful!
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Im rly sorry schaz

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I'm very sad and lonely and I have no energy to do anything.

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