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Resolutions are only dumb if you remain absolute about them. I mean seriously who is going to exercise every day that is just silly.

But if you exercise generally more than you did previously well hey! that's pretty great! You managed to take the boost of the new year and transition it into a real life-change. If you don't, well then no worries, you're not any worse off and and arbitrary end of year goal just wasn't the thing for you.

I have a long list of resolutions that I know for a fact I won't be able to maintain, but that I believe would have a positive impact on my life if I did. They aren't anything new either, just a collection of little goals that I've had at various times throughout the previous year that I've managed to put all in one place. And I'll keep adding to it! They're things that I think that, even if I just did a little bit, my new year will be better off for it.

Also I was working so I couldn't go to the cool parties. hoo.
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New Years' Resolutions are kinda silly to me. It's expecting a change in your life simply because some arbitrary date has passed, basically - I'm sure a lot of people don't consider the effort many resolutions require to maintain, and those that actually can keep up their resolutions probably don't need the excuse of a holiday to make changes in their life. I mean, having goals in life is one thing, but one shouldn't wait until the end/beginning of the year to make a list and work towards 'em, right?

I figured out how hard resolutions are to keep a while ago, so I stopped making them. :x
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Last year I made a New Year's Resolution to learn to draw better and to get more practice actually giving a shit about drawing!

I took a drawing class this semester, as well as generally practicing for the earlier part of the year, and on most accounts I'm considerably better than before! Happymelon

( no resolution this year though because I have too much on my plate as it is and I don't want to fuck up my perfect batting average. maybe next year )
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whenever I hear someone say "arbitrary date" I cringe a little. It's not arbitrary! We use it to pretty much determine how we live, and it's become a pretty well ingrained part of our tradition of just shutting up and having fun, and a new year is as good a time as any to at least mentally turn things around. Having the "you're a new you and it's a new now" behind you to support your cause helps a lot, at least for me.

'Sides, nobody calls thanksgiving "some arbitrary conquista."*

*I have no idea what you celebrate on Thanksgiving.
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I think it's pretty arbitrary
We could have chosen to end the year after February instead and it would have made little difference

Thanksgiving is less arbitrary in that afaik it is celebrating some actual historical event, new year could really be any day of the year as long as it didn't move around.
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Well yeah, but would you complain about making resolutions after february? The point is that you're not making an attempt to improve your life because it's the first of january, you're doing it because it's a new year. The date doesn't matter but what it signifies should mean enough that you're not just doing it for some arbitrary date.
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I don't see why, if I wanted to make changes in my life, I would wait until New Year to do it
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Well if you don't have to, I commend you, then you're probably the kind of person Nottles refers to when he says you're strong enough not to need support from some holiday. I am very much not, but then again for me it's really not about "because it's a new year I must now exercise" but more of a "time to throw out the old habits with the old year and actually get to it." It's hard to explain to anyone if you don't have that specific mentality, I guess, especially to you if you can get rid of a habit at will if you put your mind to it. But for me, it's not because of the date, but because what we just happened to link to it. It just gives me a boost!

When people see New Year as the day January the first and nothing more and say that because of that alone it's stupid to make resolutions, I think they're missing the idea behind it
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Yes, i'm not against a good excuse to shut up and jambalaya, but it is an arbitrary date on a calendar. The phrase "new year, new life" is a good intended but ill executed mantra that basically teaches people that it's okay to wait until some date on a calendar to stop their bad habits. It's like having a forum thread when you're being shitty and you can't stop being shitty until you make a new one.

It's not because i'm 'strong' that i'm able to spot something wrong in my life and try to fix it at any given time, it's because it's the rational thing to do.

The thing about new year's resolutions is that you get that cozy group feeling, it is acceptable and even encouraged to (or at least try to) change your bad habits 'cause everyone else is doing it. It's part of the human nature to feel accepted by society, but you should not base your actions around what others do.


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(01-03-2012, 12:41 AM)Woffles Wrote: »*I have no idea what you celebrate on Thanksgiving.

We celebrate the ability to cook turkey and get a lot of people together to eat it. At least, that's how we do it at my household. Melonspa
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Is there really anyone who says to themselves "Man, I should really start exercising more, but New Year's is still a couple months off, guess I'll wait till then."? It's not that people are intentionally putting off stuff that they know would be good for them until New Year's, they're just using the date as a chance to look back on their life and see what needs improving.

That being said, I still haven't made a New Year's Resolution cause there's really no point in lying to myself.
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(01-03-2012, 01:52 PM)Coldblooded Wrote: »Is there really anyone who says to themselves "Man, I should really start exercising more, but New Year's is still a couple months off, guess I'll wait till then."? It's not that people are intentionally putting off stuff that they know would be good for them until New Year's, they're just using the date as a chance to look back on their life and see what needs improving.

That being said, I still haven't made a New Year's Resolution cause there's really no point in lying to myself.
and as usual a dragon says what I want to say but more eloquently
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But if people don't save their meaningful changes for New Year then the date becomes even less meaningful itself.
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If you make a New Year's resolution, you are less likely to follow through with it than if you simply decide to make a change in your life because it needs changing. This is a fact, and I'm really angry that I can't find the studies I'm looking for right now.

The thing is, if you try do something for a resolution, it's not a big failure. The difference between "I tried to quit smoking and I couldn't" and "I didn't really live up to my resolution" is enormous; nobody follows through on their resolutions, you and everyone around you will say, so it's not like it's really a problem. You won't try as hard if you attach your goals to a holiday known for failure, because hey, nobody can keep that stuff up for a year and nobody expects you to! You give yourself the feeling of "Hey, I tried" and continue doing the things you wanted to stop or not doing the ones you tried to start.

You need to make changes for yourself, not because there's an external impetus to make them, or you're not going to do it. By and large.
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I think NTA used the right word when describing resolutions.

Silly.

The idea of New Years Resolutions is a fun something that shouldn't be taken too seriously either way. It is not for the serious-minded.

What most people here seem to dislike about them are those people who use resolutions as an absolute, as a singular means for getting something accomplished. People who take the idea of the resolution and use it as the primary driving force to encourage them to make an improvement or change in their life that they should really make regardless of what day it is, I think its pretty much universally understood that if this is how you practice New Years Resolutions...you're doing it wrong.

But I think it's important not to swing too far the other way either. To look at all the poor decisions and not-met goals that come out of other's New Years Resolutions and then denounce the whole practice as poppycock, I think misses the mark. It's being too serious, but in a completely different way.

Like SO said it is true that making a New Years Resolution makes it more likely that you won't get that goal accomplished. However I think that's tied in more to the fact that, as people, anytime you claim or say that you're going to do something, it gives you a similar feeling of satisfaction as actually doing the thing. Once you get that, the motivation for actual accomplishment can dwindle. This doesn't mean that you shouldn't say you're going to do things, it means that you need to keep that factor in mind and make that much more of an effort to see it through to the end.

Personally, I have a great fondness for New Years (and the resolutions that come with it). It's a holiday that's a lot like Easter in that it says: "Okay there may have been a lot of crappy things that happened to you, or that you did in the past, but now you have a fresh start." "It's a New Year, a New Beginning" ('New year, new life' as Ed mentioned).

Again, if you are someone (I don't think you are) who takes the New Year too seriously and makes it your primary motivation for making changes in your life, or holds off on making changes until a particular date, you're doing it wrong. But if you disregard the entire idea behind it as 'arbitrary', you're missing out.

Then again, it might just not be for you.

I really like the feeling of having a fresh calendar, the hope that comes with a blank-slate future. It's fun and rejuvenating. It's like waking up and realizing that not only is today a brand new day, it's a brand new year. The 365x worldwide recognized potential behind that (as Woffs put it) gives me a boost.
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my really late new year's resolution/decision is to post on eagle-time more often because I keep forgetting to
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It is the best resolution.
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today I had some really good pasta
but now I feel sick because it's summer here

oh noooooooo
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So is pasta + summer a recipe for sickness in Australia? You guys are a crazy bunch.
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it was really rich/creamy pasta
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What

What kind of pasta?

Rich and creamy is the best of sorts.
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Waitwhat, who where Australia now O_o
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(01-05-2012, 08:05 PM)Superfrequency Wrote: »It's summer here, too.

Except I live in California.

This weather just does whatever the hell it wants. I want to wear my new pea coat damn it.

:P So the seasons are subtler here. Fire season, flood season, fog season, smog season. THe world turns again.
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Things I notice about the season:
Spring: "Yay, it's getting warmer!"
Summer: "IT'S TOO FUCKING HOT."
Fall: "Gosh, it's getting colder."
Winter: "IT'S TOO FUCKING COLD AND THERE'S ICE EVERYWHERE."

I am not a perceptive person but I sure as heck know what I dislike.
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(01-05-2012, 04:00 PM)SleepingOrange Wrote: »What

What kind of pasta?

Rich and creamy is the best of sorts.

fettuccine carbonara with prosciutto and parmesan cheese

it was really good, I just have trouble eating more than half of a regular restaurant portion in one sitting
and coupled with the heat it was just not something I'm used to I guess
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